We all have this idealised Idea of the perfect partner – I am no exception, not at all.
To have someone that you can share your life with and not only feel happy but feel safe with. That’s what many of us, yes – I know, not all of us, strive to achieve. Some of us may put careers, hobbies and self-care first. Setting the foundations to a happy life before finding a partner is very positive and probably the way I’d want to do it. Finding out what you want out of life before you settle down is important but it doesn’t always happen that way. Sometimes love finds you first and you have to work out who you are with the one you love.
When I was younger all I wanted was a man with dark thick facial hair – mmhmm! Someone taller than me who could put his arms around me and keep me safe. I wasn’t asking for much and I was relatively happy to scribble my little love hearts on a piece of paper, patiently waiting for the right man to arrive…
The perfect man
For me? I always wanted him to be…
Strong; Whether that be physically or not. He’d definitely have to be strong emotionally. I’m a wreck. I need someone to support me, keep standing up straight when I’m not feeling strong enough to support myself.
Hair: Unkempt – rough and ready!
Eyes: Any colour but they have to have that ‘deep longing stare’ someone who smiles when they look at you. Of course eyes only for me.
Lips: to say honest and thoughtful things. A person who you can laugh with, share secrets with and be your real self with.
Heart: for me and his family. Someone who takes time out to really share their life with those around them.
and that was what I wanted. A checklist of traits that summed up the partner I wanted in life. It became something to compare men by. Which is certainly the wrong way to go about things. Men aren’t as black as white, just like women. We don’t all act the same way and think the same way and we’re certainly not all perfect. So a list can be a guideline, you want someone who likes what you like, sure! But don’t cross off a man who ticks 9/10 of the boxes because he has blue eye’s and not green.
Love is not a checklist and if it was, farting would definitely not be on it.
haha! We all have our irk – something that winds others up around them. Mine is correcting people, the stupidest grammatical error and I’m on it like a shot (baring in mind my grammar and pronunciation is dirt poor). It winds everyone up and it’s certainly not on anyone’s list to have a girlfriend or wife that constantly points out how dumb they sound. So, If he can forego that. Then I can forgo farting and shaving over the sink.
A woman like me wouldn’t tick the right boxes for a man like him.
That’s almost the point though isn’t it? We idealise the perfect partner to a point where we are no longer Ideal for them. I want a man who’s active and healthy and positive…but I’m not really all of those things all of the time. It’s about finding someone who checks the boxes you need in life and hopefully you can work on the rest of the things together.
I always thought that my checklist would go unticked until I realised I didn’t even need the checklist. The description above is more than just an ideal, it’s the real thing. I am very fortunate to have found my perfect partner. He ticks all the boxes (and all of my boxes) and we found each other at such a young age. It’s not just rare, it’s a bloody phenomenon. I rarely speak about him on social media or on the blog but it’s coming up to valentines and I really wanted to do something for him.
I rarely speak about him on social media or on the blog but it’s coming up to valentines and I really wanted to do something for him. Describing him in such generic terms doesn’t do him justice – At all. He’s an amazing person, supportive and caring above all …and he’s really helped my little pocket of the internet to flourish. Keeping me sane through my issues, keeping me safe and loving me regardless of how whiney I am. Not to mention, giving me the time and space to do my nutritional courses and educate myself to be able grow the blog over the past few years. So I really couldn’t be here writing about health, without him.
I hope you all have a wonderful valentines day, whether that be with your perfect partner or by yourself. Take the time to reflect on what you need out of life and not what you expect to get by each milestone.